“Every human being is trying to say something to others, trying to cry out, “I am alive; notice me; speak to me; listen to me; confirm for me that I am important, the I matter.” –Marion D. Hanks, reference unknown
This quiz may help you to get some new information about your listening habits and use it to evaluate this skill. Mark on a sheet of paper how often you do the following 16 things. Use the following categories for responding:
0 – Never 1 – Occasionally 2 – Almost all the time 3 – All the time
____1. I let others finish speaking before I talk.
____2. I look at the one who is speaking.
____3. I am more concerned about understanding others than convincing them that I am right.
____4. I ask questions to clarify my understanding when I’[m not sure.
____5. I wait until I get all the instructions before I start leaving to do something.
____6. I pay attention to the way things are said to help me understand.
____7. I am open to new ideas.
____8. Others think I am a good listener.
____9. I pay attention to nonverbal messages too.
____10. I try to listen while doing something else that also takes my attention.
____11. I am more concerned about my point of view than the other person’s.
_____12. I change the subject when someone is in the middle of saying something.
_____13. I ignore what others are saying.
_____14. I am too busy to listen carefully.
____15. I use subtle or nonverbal questions to let people know I really don’t want to listen anymore.
____16. I make sure that others know I understand them.
Rather than answering these question as if you were listening to your spouse or friend or co-worker, how would you answer these questions if you were listening to God during your prayers and meditations?
Jane Booth Robertson, Author of In Silence, Discovering Self through Meditation