Are you Being Your Own Best Friend?
The idea about being your own best friend is really transformative. It shifts us into caring about ourselves as much as we care about others. We begin to take better care of our health – our mental health, our emotional health, our physical health and spiritual health – by making good choices that will create more happiness in our lives.
Most of us want to have good relationships with others but often this can be difficult. We want to find a life partner, our soulmate; we want good working relationships; we want a happy family. To have loving and beautiful relationships with others, we first have to really like who we are. This is not about being conceited about ourself, but about being humble and loving your true essence within. It’s hard to have a good relationship if we are feeling like a victim or poor-me. Shake off those feelings and see each day as a new beginning.
Try being your own best friend. Be thankful for all your blessings and love who you are with all your talents and gifts to give to others. Think about all the things you like about yourself. These are the qualities that attract others to you. If you are feeling depressed, nurture yourself but get up and get going…for a walk, read a book, call a friend. Spend a few minutes each day sending love and good thoughts to someone you love. By giving love to others you will start a cycle of love returning to you. Love changes the energy field around us and within us.
When we can give our love to others, truly give our love without any agenda…without any conditions on our love, you will cultivate the kind of relationship you would like to have with others. Unconditionally love transforms and brings light into your heart. It something each of us is here to learn and to experience. You do not have to try to change another person – just love them. Then it is their choice whether they receive your love. Everyone wants to be love! Let your true self shine through so others are attracted to your beautiful light.
Here are 10 few tips for to assist you to be your own best friend:
v Focus on what you want in your life, rather than on what you do not want.
v Only say and think good things about yourself.
v You can’t change another person, but you can transform yourself.
v When your heart truly opens to love, your ‘poor me’ feelings leave.
v Respect other’s right to choose what he/she wants to do.
v Enjoy time on your own to explore your creative side.
v Love yourself everyday and shine as brightly as you can.
v Embrace your personal power – you are in charge of how you feel and what you do in every moment.
v Forgive yourself and others … each day is a new beginning.
v Create a loving relationships with parents, siblings, friends and spouse where there are ‘spaces’ for each one to create, to love and to flow…
All our relationships help us to grow and to know ourselves and others better. We are all here to experience life fully so let’s co-create together to make our world a peaceful place. What can you do today to create a more peaceful relationship with someone you love? How can you assist another to make their day brighter…a smile always works!
Peace and joy,
Jane
Jane Rosalea Booth
Author of In Silence, Discovering Self through Meditation
USUI Reiki Master – Inner Peace Reiki
Thank you Jane, sometimes I overlook some of these points ,not on purpose , I tend to set things aside that need some effort, anyway need a refresher again thank you
Hi Carol,
Thanks, I’m going to take some time this weekend to nurture and pamper myself too!
Thanks Jane for this wonderful reminder! I guess as a Mom, Wife, Daughter, Sister and so many other titles that I (and all of us) wear, I very often forget about myself. Recently, I have been trying to “be true to myself.” Your words today reinforce this.
Hi Jane,
You are such a ‘giving’ person. I’m glad your thinking about nuturing yourself and being true to who your are. Love Jane