How to Say Good-Bye to ‘Poor Me”
By Jane Booth Robertson
How aware are you of people and activities that are going on around you? Recognizing yourself, as a ‘poor me’ personality, is the first step in waking up. Listen to yourself talking to others. Some people are always cheerful, no matter what it going on, but others complain about everything, every day.
The chronic complainers are all about themselves or ‘poor me’. Now, many ‘poor me’ people really do have things wrong in their lives. Their problems are real so they may feel justified in being a ‘poor me’. However, staying in a ‘poor me’ mood puts you into victim mode and being a victim is never healthy or wise. We often do not know that all our negative thoughts and actions keep the cycle of negative energy floating back to us. What you give out comes back to you. For a ‘poor me’, this is creates one thing after another to complain about. So how do we stop this negative cycle?
Step 1
You must want to change old habits. No one can do it for you. A ‘poor me’ probably learned this behavior as a child or from friends.
Step 2.
Let go of things that are not working for you. This is a biggy. This means letting go of friends who keep you down, jobs that you don’t like, or a relationship that is abuse or is just not working for the both of you. You must change to let go of your ‘poor me’ attitude and behavior
Step 3
Listen to yourself. Stop and change your language or your thoughts when you are ready to say a negative thought or complaint. If you have a pain or ache, for example, say “I release my need for pain” What will your world be like without that pain? Visualize a new way of being. Allow yourself to heal
Step 4
Do something nice for yourself that makes you feel good. Look at the sunrise each day or take a walk in a park or forest. Talk to a special friend (but not about your ‘poor me’stuff). Have a treat. Do something nice for someone else.
Step 5
Forgive those around you who have hurt your feelings. Send them love instead of talking badly about them. People who do bad things can benefit from love. This can be tough but sending love will make you feel better too.
Step 6
Start being aware of the gift of life you have received. It may be difficult at times but take a look around and be thankful for one thing each day. It can be as simple as someone smiling at you or saying thank you as you open a door for someone. Wake up to little things that you appreciate and soon you will have a whole list of things you like.
Step 7
Know that every experience is part of our spiritual journey and it has purpose, even if we can understand it. There is a Divine purpose for your life and you will discover it and wake up as you change from a ‘poor me’ into a ‘thankful me’.
Step 8
Love yourself and treat yourself well. Love others and feel their love for you. Expand your love and feel connected to others and your community. You will feel the difference as your live transforms into greater harmony and peace.
Step 9
Take good care of your health by eating well and exercising everyday. Meditate everyday to discover the beautiful inner you and feel the love of God within.
Step10
Enjoy the new you. You deserve to be happy and joyful. Others will benefit by your new way of being. Shine your inner light as brightly as you can. Say “Yes, Yes Yes” to having peace in your life and really mean it. Now, enjoy your new way of living!
Have a peaceful, loving day!
Jane
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