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As we grow and evolve, forgiveness plays a huge part in our healing process to become happy, vibrant and peaceful souls.  Gently embrace yourself on this day by opening your heart to forgive what or whom needs forgiving.

Forgives heals and restores love that brings in fresh views and allows you to move on to feel lighter and have freedom to make new choices.

Here is an article by Dr. Deepak Chopra about the process…seven steps to forgiveness.

The 7 Steps to Forgiveness

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Forgiveness is very desirable. For those who receive it, the burden of guilt is lifted. For those who give it, resentment and anger can be released, clearing the slate in a relationship and making room for peace.

Despite this, in everyday life forgiveness is not easy to achieve. Let’s see if there is a way to offer genuine forgiveness, especially to those closest to you, because ironically, they are the ones you should forgive first and yet they are often the hardest to deal with.

Key Steps to Forgiveness

Here are the key steps involved:

  1. Feel your emotions and face them directly.
  2. Write down your reasons for not forgiving someone.
  3. Ask yourself how motivated you are to offer forgiveness.
  4. Let go of as much resentment and anger as you can, here and now.
  5. Envision what the future would be like if you do forgive the other person.
  6. Reconnect at a sincere positive level.
  7. Find the place of forgiveness in your own awareness.

Each of these steps clears up a specific obstacle to forgiveness that may be inside you. Let’s see how this works, step by step.

1. Feel Your Emotions and Face Them Directly

Resistance to forgiveness is fueled by emotions. You can rationalize why somebody else did something unforgivable, because deep down you feel angry, resentful, victimized, and hurt. Be honest with your grievance and go to the emotional level where it is rooted. Let the feeling be what it is. The purpose of this step is twofold, because if you confront your feelings, you also have the choice to release them.

Instead of jumping straight to forgiveness, take responsibility for your own emotions. If you can, let go of at least a small portion of your story of how things were supposed to go. Letting go is almost as hard as forgiving, I know. At least say to yourself, “Maybe if I let go of my interpretation of events and what is unfair, I don’t have to be stuck with this feeling.”

2. Write Down Your Reasons for Not Forgiving Someone

This is best done in the form of a letter addressed to the person you feel wronged you. List all your resentments and reasons in detail. Set the letter aside for a day and return to it to add anything else you forgot to say. When you are completely satisfied, put the letter away to consult later. Don’t mail it. Its purpose was to get everything off your chest.

3. Ask Yourself How Motivated You Are to Offer Forgiveness

Before you started this process, you may have had little motivation to forgive the other person. There can be various reasons for this stubbornness, usually including righteous indignation. Now check to see if your resistance to forgiveness is ready to move. But don’t set any expectation on yourself. If you are still mad as hell, if you feel devastated by hurt, or simply consider what was done to you unforgivable, it’s better to know the truth than to pretend. No matter how weak or strong your motivation is, say to yourself, “All right, this is where I really am.” Sometimes simply being honest with yourself begins to thaw the log jam.

4. Let Go of Resentment and Anger, Here and Now

You can only change what you are aware of, and by now you have gained self-awareness about the situation. Return to the letter that outlines all your grievances and reflect on each point one at a time. As you do, ask yourself, “Can I begin to let go of this resistance?” Don’t force yourself to be magnanimous but stay with how you really feel.

Some items on your list will have begun to soften, and when you encounter this, say, “Maybe there is another interpretation of this event than the painful one I am holding on to.“ Release what you can and no more. At the same time, feel the burden of anger and resentment begin to lift. That’s a positive feeling which will increase your motivation to keep with the forgiving process.

5. Envision What the Future Would Be Like If You Forgive the Other Person

Any place you feel your grievance beginning to melt away, pause and envision what it would feel like to be at peace with the other person. Sense the warmth in your heart. If it leads to tears or sobbing, that’s okay—catharsis is a powerful emotion. If you can, feel the possibility of loving the other person, wishing them well, and setting them free—all of which is in your power.

6. Reconnect at a Sincere Positive Level

When you can’t forgive someone, you usually isolate yourself from them, either physically or emotionally. Make an effort to repair this isolation and decide the appropriate level of reconnection. The safest course may be to write a note or send a card expressing your desire to reconnect and then leaving the next step to the other person. Be risk-averse here. You are treading on sensitive ground for both of you.

7. Find the Place of Forgiveness in Your Own Awareness

The final step of the forgiveness process is to shift your state of awareness. Forgiveness is a state of consciousness, not an action. Emotions get you closer to forgiveness yet they also block the way. If you remove the obstacles, it turns out that forgiveness is completely natural and generally far easier than you may have supposed.

More importantly, once you shift your awareness into forgiveness, there is a much smaller chance that you will relapse. The experience of being a forgiving person becomes part of your spiritual journey, something you deeply need and desire.


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Deepak Chopra, M.D.

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Deepak Chopra MD, FACP, founder of The Chopra Foundation and co-founder of The Chopra Center for Wellbeing, is a world-renowned pioneer in integrative medicine and personal transformation, and is Board Certified in Internal Medicine, Endocrinology and Metabolism. He is a Fellow of the American College of Physicians, Clinical Professor at UCSD Medical School, Researcher, Neurology and Psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH), and a member of the American Association of Clinical Endocrinologists. The World Post and The Huffington Post global internet survey ranked Chopra #17 influential thinker in the world and #1 in Medicine
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We spend our whole lives trying to seek love, to define and express love and hopefully to become love in the present moment. But turbulent times can turn us away from love and bring up our fears.  Fears change our actions and we have great difficulty forgiving those who harm us.  When we release our fears and anger and move our thoughts to connecting to the feelings of our heart, we begin to have the awareness that love is dwelling…always…in our heart.  Then forgiveness makes sense and all our senses respond in a new way to love.

All we have to do is tap into this loving energy, embrace and allow love to become the way of our being in our daily life.  This transformation into love consciousness is what each of us is here to do.  Michael Jackson understood about staying ‘in love’…with ourselves, with others, with nature and all the universe!  John Denver felt that love is an everlasting memory that shelters, embraces and at times is turbulent but love is in all the elements…it is everywhere and always there for us.

Love By Michael Jackson

“Love is a funny thing to describe. It’s so easy to feel and yet so slippery to talk about. It’s like a bar of soap in the bathtub-you have it in your hand until you hold on too tight.

Some people spend their lives looking for love outside themselves. They think they have to grasp it in order to have it. But love slips away like that wet bar of soap.

Holding on to love is not wrong, but you need to learn to hold it lightly, caressingly. Let it fly when it wants. When it’s allowed to be free, love is what makes life alive, joyful and new.  It’s the juice and energy that motivates my music, my dancing, everything.

As long as love is in my heart, it’s everywhere.”  from Dancing the Dream by Michael Jackson

 

John Denver – Perhaps Love…

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John Denver also sought for the meaning love. One of my favourite songs about the meaning of love was sung by John Denver is “Perhaps Love”  This video show John performing in London where he explains the transformation that took place for him as his thoughts transformed from sadness to love and these words and music came to him while he was driving his car in California.

I hope you will take time to listen to his story and song~

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rKhBPps7_Fc

 John Denver – Perhaps Love Lyrics
 
Perhaps love is like a resting place
A shelter from the storm
It exists to give you comfort
It is there to keep you warm
And in those times of trouble
When you are most alone
The memory of love will bring you home

 

Perhaps love is like a window
Perhaps an open door
It invites you to come closer
It wants to show you more
And even if you lose yourself
And don’t know what to do
The memory of love will see you through

Oh, love to some is like a cloud
To some as strong as steel
For some a way of living
For some a way to feel
And some say love is holding on
And some say letting go
And some say love is everything
And some say they don’t know

Perhaps love is like the ocean
Full of conflict, full of pain
Like a fire when it’s cold outside
Or thunder when it rains
If I should live forever
And all my dreams come true
My memories of love will be of you

Songwriters: J DENVER
Peacefully with love,
Jane

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Here we are at the beginning of a New Year with lots of people promoting programs to change us, to help us create the life we want by encouraging us to live fully and to make affirmations or intentions about how we would like to be and how we can be our authentic Self. I am in this group of people with Conscious Aging that starts in April.

Now all these ‘intentions’ and programs can be good for us. Positive energies bring positive results in our lives.  Affirmations keep us focused on our visions or dreams. Self- reflection and meditation takes us within and helps our to calm and feel connected spiritually.  But sometimes we can feel bombarded by all these suggestions no matter how well-meaning these practices may be.

However, I am going to offer my Jane’s Peaceful Path tip. For today, stop trying to be something different.  Everything in this moment is what is best for you…even though it may not appear that way.  For today, simply stay in love…all day…every moment…with everyone you meet, with nature, with all life but most of all, with you.  For today, observe how your life is unfolding as you stay in love…magical things happen when we stay in love.

Here is a lovely video that I have played at my retreats…just what we need to stay in love! Enjoy

“Love, Peace, Wisdom” by Bliss

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=elzh8cUOImc

Bliss – Love Peace and Wisdom lyrics

“If Love were a bird, I would stroke her bright feathers

Then I’d watch her fly free, cross the still of the dawn

And if Peace were a mountain, we’d gather around her

To bathe in her silence, her power, her call

If Wisdom could sing or whisper his secrets Eternity teaching the ways of the free

In my mind I can see them, I hear them and I feel them

For Love, Peace and Wisdom are all part of me

If Love has her freedom, and Peace her expression,

Surely Wisdom will grow like a flower in bloom

The seed has been planted, and tended and watered

By the prayers of the hopeful and the tears of the brave

We long to return to that place of still waters

And sit on the banks under some shady tree

In my mind I can see it, I hear it and I feel it

And Love, Peace and Wisdom are all that we need

Some call me a dreamer, some will call me a seeker

One who follows her stars on a quest for the truth

But every believer holds a deep hidden memory

Of a time when the earth was a flower in bloom

We long to return to that place of still waters

And sit on the banks under some shady tree

In my mind I can see it, I hear it and I believe it

And Love, Peace and Wisdom are the three golden keys”

Stay in love so peace and wisdom will flow.

Have a beautiful, loving day,

Peacefully, Jane

 

11709538_10152829565162303_6161609573751527717_nJane Rosalea Brown,BA, CSW, USUI Reiki Master

Author ~ In Silence, Discovering Self through Meditation, Jane Rosalea Booth (author name)

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Visionary Artist Francene Hart http://www.francenehart.com

As I was making preparations for Christmas, baking, shopping, decorating, wrapping gifts, I took a few minutes this morning for quiet reflection and meditation.  As part of my spiritual practice, I write what I have heard in my meditations.  My inner voice continues to speak to me after my meditations and I am always lifted by what I hear.  Our inner voice is the voice of our soul, our essence, our inner wisdom. We all have come into this life as wisdom carriers (listen to a 3 year old, you will know this is true) with much to share with one another if we take time in our relationships to listen…to our self…to others.  Taking time and trusting your inner wisdom brings peace even in our most difficult moments.

I was thinking about ‘gifts’ this morning and what gifts in my life do I truly value and what has heart and meaning in my life.  This is a conscious aging practice that I use to bring me into my core and truth.  I opened my binder where I had recorded these words from a meditation in last Dec. 26, 2015.

“The gift of your presence

Fills me with joy

Lifts my heart to see

What I Am

Light within light

Creation upon creation

Waiting to unfold

A step into timelessness

A dance in the moonlight

A beginning, an ending

Endless revolutions

Stillness of space.” Jane Rosalea Brown

This time of the year brings up lots of emotions for many people as Christmas has transformed into a commercial circus.  Take some time to see who in your life is a ‘gift of your presence’.  Take some time to connect with your inner presence and realize that you are a ‘gift’ to all who know you.  Stay in love with all around you…soak up the beauty of nature…the kindness of neighbours and family…create your own dance even if it is just in your imagination…feel the loving presence, the stillness of our inner space, that is always supporting and guiding us.

Christmas is about the birth of a miracle…a baby who went on to teach about love.  Each of us is a miracle.  May we all pass on that Christmas miracle of love in each moment.  However, you celebrate or pass this holy time of the year, I send you…

Season’s greetings, Happy Solstice and wishing all many miracles, joy and peace,

Merry Christmas, Love and Peace, Jane

About artist: Francene Hart is a wonderful visionary artist who connects deeply with spirit through nature and sacred geometry.  Please visit her website to see her amazing works.  She lives in Hawaii.

11709538_10152829565162303_6161609573751527717_nJane Rosalea Brown,BA, CSW, USUI Reiki Master

Author ~ In Silence, Discovering Self through Meditation, Jane Rosalea Booth (author name)

A Peaceful Way Gatherings and Retreats

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How do we stay in an open and accessible heart when our world is revealing war, killing, poverty and political changes that seem frightening? I know those who visit this page come here because you are already peace loving people from many different cultures and religions.  I remember the words of a rabbi who was giving a lecture on spiritual peacemaking.  He said, “If you are a Jew, be a good Jew.  If you are a Muslim, be a good Muslim. If you are a Christian, be a good Christian.  If you are a Buddhist, be a good Buddhist…and so on.”  His words about ‘being good’ resonated with me and have stayed in my consciousness.  Perhaps he reminded me of my mother say, “Be a good girl Jane” or how I felt when someone said, “You are a good girl”…some childhood consciousness that I learned about the importance of being “good”.

Now can we bring our goodness into our everyday life?  Can each of us be one who is coming from a good heart to create good work, good family, good friends, good community, good countries, good sharing for those in need?

I think our goodness sustains us and keeps us seeing the light in the heart of each person.  Even those who are causing such chaos in the world have a heart.  They were a small baby  who entered the world and needed care, love and nurturing.  Those people still have the same needs but will they be awakened to the fact that there are millions and millions of people who love them?  We love them because they are part of humanity.  We do not condone their horrific deeds…but we can send the love and healing prayers for a dramatic change of their consciousness…a return to their heart.

But my words of love need to be connected with your words of love and passed on.  Love is the key and it is the power that we each have to overcome adversities.  Love moves us into action to assist those in need with compassion, to heal and to create new communities.  We must open our country to receive people in need…to share our riches with those who have none.

So how do we stay in an open and accessible heart as the wars rage on…stay in love with you…find your loving space within, that quiet space where you can feel your connection…with spirit…whatever your religious views are…embrace the light, the love, the compassion, the courage and strength that is you.

Light always outshines darkness.  If that were not true, humanity would have killed itself by now.  Together let us bring the ‘goodness’ of who we are out into the world.

Be good. Be love. Be you.

Peacefully, Jane

 

11709538_10152829565162303_6161609573751527717_nJane Rosalea Brown,BA, CSW, USUI Reiki Master

Author ~ In Silence, Discovering Self through Meditation, Jane Rosalea Booth (author name)

A Peaceful Way Gatherings and Retreats

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Jane Rosalea Brown   Follow me on twitter @janerbooth

 

 

 

 

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To live without fear is to live in the present moment with love and compassion.”

How we deal with our fears determines how we view our world.  Our world view determines how we make choices about how we live.  Our fears affect all parts of us…emotions, physical health, mental wellness, spiritual growth.  What we fear may be rooted from our past or something we are afraid might happen to us in the future.  They seem very real to us and can control our thoughts and actions.  However, if we realize that fears are our ‘what if’s’ in life it helps us to move through them and release their power over us.  By learning to release them is a huge step to healing and well-being.

However, learning to release our fears can sometimes be difficult especially if we are feeling alone and not sure what our next step should be.  This is when being in the present moment is so important.  It is only in the present moment that we can create change by shifting our present view.  For example, you may have an exam or test to complete.  Your fear is that you will fail.  In the present moment, you have not failed.  You can make the choice to study and learn as much as you can.  In the present moment, you can relax, enjoy your studies, focus on what you need to learn and only hold thoughts of success.  If the thought of failing comes in, take a deep breath, acknowledge your fear and release it.  Replace it with a positive image of your success.  I had this deep fear of failure for years.  I did not think I was smart enough to go to university.  It took me till I was 40 years old before I took the steps to try some university courses.  I put aside my fears of failing and began my studies.  Two years later, I had completed my degree…and graduated on the Dean’s Honour roll!!!

So I learned to overcome my fears by focusing in the present moment.  I had a dream of completing university and I worked hard to make it come true.  I learned that my fears were truly my ‘what if’s’ and that they are my made up thoughts…not what was really happening in the present moment.

Once you realize that you can create your future from your thoughts and feelings, life can begin to change.   There is always a new way to look at life where we can feel love and compassion for ourselves and others and this love is only created in the present moment.

So I began to open my heart to discover more about myself and to live in the present moment, instead of worrying so much about the future.  I felt grateful for what I had in my life and this made me feel much better.  Through my meditations I found wisdom about how to live more fully.  Life is ever changing with new challenges but meditation, connecting with Spirit, helps me through and keeps me balanced and peaceful through difficult times.

Mindfulness means to be present to what is, rather than losing ourselves in thoughts of what is no longer or what has not yet come. Mindfulness is an awakening to life, a nonjudgmental awareness of the wonder of the present moment.” ~ Joan Borysenko

Blessings of inner peace and love,

Jane

 

 

11709538_10152829565162303_6161609573751527717_nJane Booth Robertson,BA, CSW, USUI Reiki Master

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“Still is your mind

Open is your heart

It is not anywhere, not anyone

It is lightness, love of Self

To radiate your love to others

To share your joy every moment

To be one in love

With All.”

Jane Rosalea Booth, In Silence, Discovering Self through Meditation

Meditation is the key to unlocking our inner wisdom that leads us to feeling peaceful and more aware of who we truly are.  Taking a few minutes, in silence, each day transforms your life dramatically.

During each meditation, breathe in and out to become relaxed and begin to let go of your daily stress and anxieties as your mind and body begins to relax.  Move your awareness to your heart and release your fears by asking spirit to dissolve them.   Fill your heart with the love that naturally flows inwards each time you mediate.  Open your heart to experience this love and soothe and relax in its warmth and beauty.  Feel yourself in a beautiful place, an inner sanctuary.  Enjoy this inner sanctuary within where there is only love, peace and stillness.  Stay there as long as you desire. Begin to experience an inner spiritual connection where you feel divinely loved in each moment.  Soak up all this loving energy and know that it is always presence to support you.  Feel deep gratitude for all your blessings.

Bring this loving energy back into your outer world…now share it with others…peace, love, compassion…

Peacefully, Jane

11709538_10152829565162303_6161609573751527717_nJane Rosalea Robertson, BA, CSW,  Authorized IONS Conscious Aging Workshop Facilitator, an experienced holistic workshop facilitator, promotes seeing the connection of nature, art and heart centered spirituality for inner peace and spiritual self-mastery.   Jane is Author of In Silence, Discovering Self through Meditation. (Author name – Jane Rosalea Booth)

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